In part one of this article we began to understand that everyone complains here and there because life is unfair at times. But the Bible tells Christians that they are not to whine and complain. This is a not an easy principle to live up to on a continual basis. If we want to make it work but find that we continually fail, we must look at why this is occurring. Once we have grasped why we fall into this pattern, we can be in a place where we can embark on changing our behavior with the Lord’s help.
First of all, the Bible assures us that vengeance is God’s and He will repay (see Rom. 12:19). The Bible also promises us that God knows everything there is to know, and so this naturally includes our pain and hurt (see Job 24:23; Psalms 33:13-15, 139:13-16; Proverbs 15:3; Hebrews 4:13, etc…). The only question now is whether we trust that God will take vengeance on those who have mistreated us. Are we able to wait until that final judgment day to see our wrongs dealt with? Or are we just not able to let it go without telling someone?
Secondly, we need to understand that sharing our pain with other people might mean that we will get no further relief. Blurting our hurt to another person is analogous to getting a bit of vengeance for ourselves. This means we took God’s place and removed that option from Him. Jesus showed that those Pharisees that prayed on the street corner in the sight of others had received all the praise they’d ever get. This fundamental principle could very well apply here also (see Mt. 6:5).
Third, we must all acknowledge that it is extremely difficult to learn to keep hurts inside and turn to God. It will take us a lifetime of working at it. Truthfully, we will never be perfect until we pass from this life and find ourselves in glory. Until that day we simply need to practice and then keep practicing. When we fail we should ask for forgiveness and move on.
It may help to begin a journal and write our wounds down. At a minimum it is written down on paper. If that doesn’t work then try promising yourself that you’ll tell someone about your pain tomorrow. When tomorrow begins promise yourself that you’ll hold it again for one more day. Continue to work on this day by day until the pain is dull enough that you are able to get by without sharing it at all. If you just have to tell someone else, then find someone who is extremely trustworthy and won’t reveal anything you’ve told them. If the need is still much too great then you should seek out counseling. Some people need help to get to the bottom of the issues that prevent them from trusting God as they should.
You should also know that you’re not alone in this. Not only is God available to you all the time, but every other person on earth is struggling with the same things you’re going through. At the end of the day you should decide what kind of person you want to be. Most people desire to be that strong person that has learned to trust God completely. They wish to be seen as that one that never gripes about anything and always has peace about them. After you’ve chosen to be that person then get started doing what you need to with God’s help in order to become that person. In the book “The Seer of Remmon,” this is the same road Jolus had to walk and the same lesson he had to learn.
Norita Sieffert, a published author and professional speaker who also battled with the same problems and practices overcoming them on a daily basis. She has arrived at a place of complete commitment to faith in Jesus Christ. If you would like more information on this or some other faith topic, feel free to contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org. To view her latest Christian fiction titles on Kindle, go to her online bookstore.